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Wednesday, January 22, 2025

tv thoughts

Has anyone written a thesis/monograph/treatise/very good blog post on the relationships of fathers and sons in good television? Because it seems like there are very few exceptions--especially when the show is from the POV of the son--to the Dysfunctional Relationship rule. Doesn't matter if it's a comedy or a drama. It's the Year of Our Lord 2025, guys! It's not just Boomers and Xers making TV! Millennials, are we ok?? And will Zedders, too, fall victim to the Is It Even Possible for Adult Sons to Have Good Relationships With Their Fathers problem? Or will they break the cycle?! And are father/son relationships actually usually very complicated?? Or do complicated relationships just happen to Venn diagram real well with guys who end up in writers rooms? I don't know, as I am not a son, nor have I ever been in a tv writers room. For the sake of equality, when will moms get the chance to be villains?*
 
Fathers & daughters is also interesting, because--unless the girl is a teen who hates both parents, generally--those tend to be Functional (dare I say Good?) Relationships. This, I have both observed and can speak to from experience.


*(Without the implications or literal conveyance of mental illness being the cause. Because I guess mothers can only be bad if they are extremely mentally ill and unmedicated? This seems like both a compliment and a deep insult. Like you can be mentally ill and a good mom, but you can't be a bad mom without mental illness. Or you can be a shitty stepmom, I guess, but that tends to come with additional Father Issues, or is a Result of Misunderstanding/Lack of Communication and she's not actually bad. I think I'm getting off topic. My proposed focus of research was specifically Fathers, not Parents! Parents introduce far too many variables.) 

(And, yes, I'm sure you can do a great job and list some tv shows where these rules do not apply, bully for you, but I maintain that well done tv overwhelmingly falls into these categories.)

(One last thought, though: Taken ((or something in that vein. I've never seen Taken, so I'm going off vibes here)), but starring a woman. My dad would absolutely do everything to find me, no question, but mom would go full mid-winter mama bear. Dad's distracting the kidnappers with metaphorical flares, รก la Jeff Goldblum in Jurassic Park, while mom is absolutely John Wicking it around town. Dramatic version, based on my parents: dad played by Kyle Maclachlin, mom played by Molly Ringwald. Comedic version: Steve Carell, and... Actually, you know who I think would be great? Marisa Tomei. She does funny + extremely competent really well, and she's only 5'3"! My mom is 5' tall, and maintaining her shortness is v important in comedy.

(ACTUAL last thought: Yes, I could google this to see if someone has written about it. In fact, I will probably do that right after I post this. Will I be satisfied by what I find? It's possible, but unlikely. And yet, I will do it, because I can tell that's what you're about to do, and I don't want the grumps of the bunch finding me and telling me that there is actually a paper and that I'm so dumb because I could have just googled it. I know I can google it. But if I had googled it before writing this, I probably wouldn't have written this, and you who are the grumps would not have had the chance to think to yourself "Hm, that's interesting." Instead, you'd be reading the ten-page research paper/lit review I would have been compelled to write. So I hope you appreciate this wonderful gift I have given you. Though it be not the gift of knowledge, per say, it is surely the gift of inquiry.) <You turn your head to look up from your computer, but I have vanished. After a moment of bewilderment, you nod appreciatively. Such wisdom, such grace. "Yeah," you say aloud. "I should write more blog posts before researching them at all. Thanks, Czuba--you've done it again." I pop back out of thin air and make sure to clarify that, actually, you usually SHOULD do research before saying anything. Like, no hot takes. Don't do that. Only nice, cold takes. Things that are mildly interesting, at best. Seriously. "Got it." We high-five. I disappear again. "You've done it again, again, Czuba" Yes, my child. I have done it again, again.>