Like a gazillion other people in the northern hemisphere, I'm in "spring cleaning" mode. One teetering step from it, more accurately. While many are purging their closets and junk drawers and pantries, I am reading articles and blog posts, hoping they can push me over the edge of my painful limbo of procrastination and into their world of sparkling fulfillment.
Ten Weird Tricks to Give Away All of Your Dead Grandmother's China and Not Feel Even a Little Sad About It! Decluttering Is *Actually* As Fun As Disneyland! Make Your Japandi Dreams Come True By Creating a Capsule Wardrobe! Just Throw Things Into the Trash, Coward.
Please, O People who Professionally Organize, I want my living room to feel cozy, my kitchen to be organized, my bathroom to be clean, my laundry to blah blah yard blah basement blahhhhh, etc! I want to enter any room in my house and feel relaxed and/or rejuvenated! And, oh, how my hands yearn to pick things up and put them down again--possibly back into the exact same space, but also possibly into a box! Or put them in a different room that I will clean later but can ignore for now!
So what is stopping my grubby little gremlin hands from picking through my belongings like I'm my own heir? Why, I'll tell you! There are both literal and figurative obstacles in my way! Each obstacle adds like 20 lbs of emotional labor. Example: I need boxes and bags to put things in. This means I must find boxes and bags. It *also* means that I must consider the fact that the bags and boxes will need to go somewhere until I can donate them--or put them a different place until the yard sale at my parents' house in June. Emotional lifting calculation: find boxes, 20 lbs; put boxes in either place 1 or 2, depending, 40 lbs; Is that all? That seems doable! WHY, NO, FRIEND. No, my living room is currently overpopulated with things that are for actual projects. I have three huge rolls of reed fencing for the front yard that I need to put up, a few huge boxes containing the parts of a new toilet*, and a disassembled air purifier waiting for the new filters that were scheduled to be delivered yesterday. Having to even think about this: 1000000000 lbs.
Is that all? Because that seems difficult but surmountable! Goodness gracious, no, because now we get to the good stuff; the raw, emotional shit that HGTV eats up like a raccoon who pried the lid off a restaurant dumpster.
I look at my bookcases and have an identity crisis.
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one of the two living room bookcases & "my office" art corner in the name of journalistic integrity, I did no zhuzhing for this photo |
Sure, there are many books I will never read again. And, yes, there are a couple I have not read. And yes, you got me, there are books that I found mediocre but look good on my shelves (demonstrating my bona fides, as it were). I'm a "book person." I went to school for six years to study books. So when I think about really going for it and trimming the proverbial fat, I picture the end result: the formerly overflowing built-in shelves now awkwardly blemished by empty spaces, books slumping diagonally, the whole scene giving off an air of successful public library/personal embarrassment. How can I be expected to enjoy a more dust-free, well-organized home when both id and ego crave the limited floor space and intellectual superiority of a secondhand bookstore? It's simply not fair!
Obviously, it will be good to go through everything. I don't need a coffee table book about Hamilton (the musical),** or two copies of Midnight in Chernobyl,*** or any copies of Asterios Polyp.**** But what if I wake up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night because I realize I gave away something truly special--like the copy of Geek Love that was signed with a really lovely personal note from Katherine Dunn after I had her as a workshop professor, which got lost in a donation pile right before our move from the UK back to Portland in 2015 (I will never get over this. Someone in Oxford has this book on their shelf right now)? What if I give away one of my random issues of Granta only to find out a year from now that it has a poem in it I've been looking for, and because Granta is a lit mag and not a book that can be reprinted or downloaded as an ebook, it now costs a bajillion dollars and no one is selling it and I can never read that poem again? I told you the emotional lifting was going to be bonkers. How many pounds are we up to? I've intentionally lost count.
Some people are good at purging. I am the person who does a purge and then laments (seriously, forever) donating that pair of cyan pedal pushers or the amazing Jurassic Park t-shirt from Primark. Do I want to end up hoarding "but what if...?" treasures, screaming "MY PRECIOUS!!!!!", Smeagol-style, every time I take a box of sweaters and old dishes to Goodwill? I do not want to do that. I do not want to be a weird cave-dwelling eel hobbit. I want people to come into my house and think "Wow, this is very cozy!" and "The overall decor does low-key suggest a witch might live here, but, like, the nice kind!" and "This gal probably makes a delicious and hearty vegetable soup!'" and "The person who owns this house has very aesthetic and well-curated bookshelves!" So if Martha Stewart or The Spruce or Apartment Therapy could write an encouraging post or two on how to declutter if you're a cottagecore queen with 1960s suburban mom levels of anxiety, that might actually be helpful.
If I figure it out before they do, I'll let you know.
*This should be taken care of tomorrow! ...BUT WHERE WILL THE OLD TOILET GO??? Until we take it to the dump, that is, because I don't think it's worth donating. We wouldn't have bought a new toilet if it was. It will probably live in the backyard until we can do a dump run, which we need to do, because there's a lot of post-home improvement related trash in our backyard. In fact, this will bring the number of defunct toilets in our backyard to two. Classy.
** Why do I have this?? I can tell you with 100% certainty that I did not buy this, but I doubt whoever gave it to me is going to come over, look around my house, and wonder "hey, what did she do with that 5000000 page coffee table book about the hit musical Hamilton?"
***My grandpa sent me a copy because he liked it so much! I already had a copy at home, though, so now I have two. It's a really good book, btw. Highly recommend.
****One of those "bona fides" books I mentioned. I thought it was way more mediocre than everyone else I know who read it, but having it on my shelf demonstrates that I did read it when it came out, and I have an opinion about it, which could be important if you're having literary types over to your house. But I don't have people over to my house, so why do I feel the need to keep it?? Aside: no shade if you liked it. I will generally not shame a person for their taste in books.